Hi Marc,
Strange situation here- silly me built something where the user has the ability to add\removehinmself from user groups.
While testing it is worked (duh! i am the site collection admin) but..it would never work for a normal user,because he is not the owner of the group{Requirement says :It has to be like this}
[everything has to be via jQuery]
here is what i thought are possible without jQuery\SP,though most of them are out of question:
1. fire a workflow ->impersonate ME-> add\remove user's
2. have a WCF and not use SPSErvices at all but call the wcf from my jquery [but that means drifting into VS\object model and that' out of question]